November 8, 2013 in Uncategorized
There I was, playing strip poker with some friends when I started thinking…
Women and their bodies, what is up with that shit? I’ve never in my life met a man who is shy taking his clothes off and parading naked in front of people. However, women and being naked always come with issues. If it is not weight, it is cellulite, or saggy boobs, or, or, or…
What about approaching our bodies in a positive way?
“Oooo look at my curvy hips and round butt!”
“I really like my knees…”
Is that too much to ask? Is it too much to ask that you give yourself some lovin’ and acknowledge the good parts? Ideally I would love a world where women don’t believe anything about them can be ugly. I’d like a world where each and every woman knows they’re beautiful irrespective of size, shape, age, and everything that gravity throws at them.
I’ve written about Dove’s #RealBeauty campaign before and I can’t help but smile every time I visit a website and see those beautiful, sensual, curvy ladies strutting their stuff on campaign ads. It makes me proud to be a woman when I see other women stand up and say, enough with these stick straight bodies you keep shoving in our faces – give us curves!
We should stop comparing our bodies with those we see in magazines – have you seen the amount of retouching necessary to get their “ideal” woman? Not even models are good enough nowadays. It is sickening but we keep falling for it. But I won’t go into my usual spiel on how buying Cosmopolitan and its sister magazines contributes to the body issues of thousands of young and even older women. We keep paying them to tell us how ugly we are. How is that workin’ for ya?
“But”, I hear you saying, “my boyfriend won’t be attracted to me if I am overweight, have cellulite or if my boobs sag.”
My dear, if he is that shallow, he does not deserve you. Research has proven time and time again that men, contrary to popular belief, want something to hold onto. Your body is also not the first on a list of check boxes when it comes to attractiveness – your face is. So if he’s not attracted to you because of this or that, dump his ass. There are many men out there who don’t buckle under the pressure of dating what society sees as a 10/10.
I have to confess, although I am leaps and bounds ahead of most women when it comes to accepting my body, I still have some work to do. But that is okay, I’ve come a long way. I’ve accepted every single scar, stretch mark, varicose vein…you name it. Why? Because this body has a story to tell. It has been on a long journey and my, what some would call imperfections, fit perfectly into my body’s biography.
So ladies, stop comparing yourself to the woman next to you. I know you’re capable of seeing the beauty in others, it is time to now see it in yourself.