Malowe

Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences regarding the da booze and the hair! Despite the negative comments (from nay-sayers not you friendly friends), am not about to change my drinking or my hair! I'm mad about both!

Its hubby's birthday tomorrow...that's gonna be lekker! We are going away for the weekend, therefore no work for me on Friday! Sho,  I cant wait. I hope you guys are sufficiently envious... I'm always so beside myself with envy whenever anyone blogs about going away, so I had to blog/gloat about this to you guys.

Real issues? Dont you just HATE AARTO!!! My peeps from JHB and PTA will know what I'm talking about! Its an illegal and unfair money spinner! I mean you exceed the speed limited by 2km per hour and you know what? A bloody AARTOO notice in the post! I'm telling you now, I'm definitely going to be amongst the first to lose their licence once the demerit systems kicks! At this point they are issuing fines as per the new law even though the points ntoz, is not in operation yet.

When you do a websearch on AARTO, there is a website dedicated to the cause of the motorist and explains why some believe that this system is illegal! Me? I didnt bother with reading the contents of the webpage, after receiving thousands in fines, over the space of 2 weeks I just wanted to check whether I would lose my licence soon!

Now, that I know that am not losing points YET, I think I will go to that website and add my name to any petition or such-like, cause if this thing goes forward, I will be working to pay off mine and hubby's fines! Not to mention, the time spent in jail, that will come shortly, am worried as well.

Well Mal, why dont you change your driving style and stick to the speed limits...Well I live in Jozi, where idiot drivers are a dime a dozen, any opportunity to wizz past these idiots, I will jump or risk never getting anywhere on time!

Hey there,

I have to ask, why is it that we feel it is ok to impose our views, beliefs and judgements on other people and their lives? I mean really, why must I fee like I have to justify every little Me-thing that I do? If I'm not hurting or harming anyone why cant I be left alone?!

You all know that I drink normally, most days with company or by myself. I'm definitely not a social drinker! No, sir, I'm life drinker! I'm tired, I get a glass of wine...I like it so much I have 2 or even 3. I dont need an excuse, I just need a drink! I dont get pissed or misbehave. I only ever drink and misbehave when I social drink!!! When I do my "a glass a day, keeps the psychologist or psychiatrist or Naija dealer AWAY, I'm generally fine!!!

Why is it that I have to defend this to everyone. Everyone makes me feels like, there's something wrong with me, I need to change, get a grip!! This is not normal...they all come close to calling me an alcoholic...

I have also been asked why I dont "DO" my hair. I'm one of those black women that doesnt treat her hair with chemicals or wear a weave. Oh goodness, that is the worst thing you can do as a black woman, it is a crime. Everyone comments!!! Black women tell you "do something with  your hair! You cant wear that beautiful professional suit with that hair?" Why not?

Let me explain there's only two things I do to my hair...wash it and plait it. Nothing else. Most days I dont event plait it, I wash it and go. You see, I'm growing an afro, not like the 70's wig but like Jill Scott when she first came out, except mine is more like Lira's, its still short.

Why must we impose our views on others. Why would anyone think that I care what they think of my hair or my drinking habits!!! You are not me, you cannot tell me what to think or how to feel about being me.  So just chill, focus on your life...and I will focus on mine and we will both be so much happier.

Am so glad that I got that out the way....happy monday all:-)

Good morning all.

Hubby and I were up at 4:20am...probably were up much earlier but this was the time when we checked the clock and decided to get up and make some tea.  I thought about sex...but thanks to female problem...it was only a thought. Ladies any ideas on a home remedy for yeast infection. And dont tell me about probiotics, they make me constipated:-(

Anyway, its Phuza Thursday!!! Yay! But I have class and hubby has a dinner. I may use the opportunity to read up and start working on my research paper which is due in September...where will I find the time! But big girl panties and all.

What has been exciting in my life? Not much. Am in a bit of a slump, so what do you guys recommend I do for excitement?

Have a good day you all.

What a weekend?! It was supposed to be the Women's Day long weekend, for me it was the Workers' day long long weekend! I worked late on Friday, worked most of Saturday...approximately 8 hours, some 4 hours on Sunday and of course 3 more hours on Monday. It was a hectic weekend, but am here and alive.

Hope most of you bloggers had a blast and unlike me got to relax. What has all of this got to do with being hungry? I take your point...I'll tell you.

Tonight is Hubby's and mine's date night. Am in so in the mood for some prawns. I told hubby as much, so I think we are going to go out for some supper...and with this in mind, I havent had anything to eat since lunch and that was a long time ago. Hubby's got farewell drinks for a colleague and so he's not here yet. So am starving...and in any event, my helper/babysitter is only leaving class at 19:00, so even if Hubby arrives soon, we must still wait for babysitter to arrive...!

How much more tea can I have? Not anymore, I can tell you. I think I will try juice for a change, but goodness....those prawns. If that man comes here late or my babysitter gets here after 19:30...they will find me in a puddle on the floor...! Cause I am on hunger strike and I refuse to eat a  morsel unless it is prawns!!!

Wish me luck and happy Wednesday to you all:-) (in anticipation of course)

Morning all!

Oh what a beautiful morning, oh what a beautiful day! I've got a beautiful feeling, everything's going my way, NOT!

Hubby's going away for work and only returning on Thursday. I will be so lonely and sad, but I will for a change go to bed early! Hubby and I always stay up and talk or watch TV. We hold this competition to see who will fall asleep first and watch the most of whatever TV show, mind you I always, always win. At great cost to myself. So, no competition tonight, lots of sleep and blogging....so I will be checking on you later.

I have been chosen for training at work. Good right? Not sure. It involves me being put on the spot, presentations to the higher ups, interviews by them and a test. It sounds to me like I'm re-interviewing for my job. Or interviewing for another post, which am not sure I even want.  But will have to go through the motions and see if it leads to anything. Am I ready for a grilling? Psychologically? Am always ready for a fight for my survival.  So, bring it on.

You know Chris Rock brought home to me, how this racism thing works. You may think that there is not racism, no offence, but a lot of white South Africans love to believe that they are not racists and that with the number of blacks in flashy cars that they see driving around, racism is dead, NOT!

Anyway back to Chris, he explains how he lives in this posh neighbourhood. That his house is worth millions. He says how, in the whole neighbourhood, his family is only 1 of 3 other black families. The others are Denzil Whashington, Jay-Z and Mary J Blige. Those are the only blacks in the exclusive suburb. He tells how all the black people are outstanding individuals who have achieved so much, who faces are recognised all over the world. Then he notices how their neighbours are nobodys. He tells how his next door neighbour is a dentist! He had to become a famous comedian in order to live in a neighbourhood that a white dentist can afford to live in, just like that! Amazing!

My point? That's what corporate South Africa is very much about. As a black woman, you are either being pushed to the front because of your blackness or being held back because of it. Whichever it is, you are told that it is not because of you blackness, it is because, the company sees your potential and wants to make sure that you are not poached whether the higher up believe you deserve it or not. Similarly, your lack of experience is held up as the only reason you cannot advance, you just haven't been in the game long enough! Who's fault is that?!

Sorry to depress you guys, but now and again this whole thing gets to me and gets to me in a big way. But it is things like this that I need to remember, whenever I am faced with challenges of this sort. I am not the only one.