Case of the X
August 17, 2010 in Uncategorized
I understand that some folks are ok being friends with their exes while to others its a definate no-no. I’ m still not sure which category I fall under. One of the reasons being there is only one person I consider an ex.
The sad thing though is that after 5 years of not seeing (but hearing from) each other it looks like we could easily pick where we left off.
Where we left off, was a lot of fights and bickering. We reconnected through facebook. At first I was hesitant. To accept or not to accept. I thought about it, sought guidance and then though what the heck.
And so accepted his request on Saturday and on monday we had our first fight. GREAT!
I must admit I started it.
You know when you have a clever moment. And then you think, you just cannot let this pass. Yes, I made a silly comment of one of his photos.
I ended up wondering if I enjoy the idea of him squirming.
But I dont think I resent him. I just have a way of getting under his skin. He called me arrogant and I felt truimpant.
I must admit though I think I still like him, too much if you ask me. That on its own creeps me.
innocence said on August 17, 2010
Perhaps the fact that you like him is one of the reasons you made the comment because subconsciously you wanted to get his attention…
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
Maybe :p
honeymarket said on August 17, 2010
hmmm, I am a no ex person….an ex is from the past, so leave them there, they shouldn’t be in your present and most certainly not in you future…
MsThang said on August 17, 2010
would you take him back if he asked?
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
I’m not sure MsThang. He’ll have to work very hard to win me back
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
He is an ex for a reason, right Honey?
lonely.at.home said on August 17, 2010
I don’t do the ex thing! If I was able to stay ‘friends’ then we wouldn’t be ex’s, right? lol
(((hugs)))
lele007 said on August 17, 2010
Hehehehehee…….maybe you shouldnt make funny comments anymore or you’ll be having a make up session very soon….
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
Nah dont think so Lee.
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
Eish Cilla. I tried to fight the temptation. I guess I’m not strong enough.
lonely.at.home said on August 17, 2010
Nothing to fight sweetheart… just guard your heart and do what feels good and right for YOU
MissMadam said on August 17, 2010
haha. Sometimes X does not mark the spot!
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
Nhe?
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
There is no this time Rea. At least I dont want to think there is a chance of anything happening. right? I mean I cannot make the same mistake twice.
He had issues. He has dealt with them (so I’m told).
nzwaa said on August 17, 2010
Mal you had your hubby to keep your head straight. I’m going out of my mind coz I’m not over this guy and seeing him brought everything back.
MsThang said on August 18, 2010
im wondering: this hard work yeah, is it regarding the act of getting you back OR who he is nje would need hard work…for you to consider taking him back?
nzwaa said on August 18, 2010
The act of getting me back.
thisisme2 said on August 18, 2010
an ex is an ex for a reason. i hate exs… buys or girls and i think that once the relationship is over you need to accept it and move on. its stupid to try be friends. people cant just be friends with an ex because they are so used to being more than friends that they will ALWAYS treat u that way
anil said on August 18, 2010
LOL, you remember why you broke up and got it right again immediately.
Think carefully Ruth, think with your head & your heart!
xxx
nzwaa said on August 19, 2010
I’ll try Anil. I think its stupid to have your heart broken twice by the same person.
goodnessme said on August 24, 2010
ooooooo…that rings too true…send shivers down my spine….
Mos_Native said on August 25, 2010
good question msthang
Eerie24 said on October 16, 2010
I agry wih u innocent1. Bt hey she’s only human, we tend to do things to make ourselves feel beta somtym.
Kerry-Ann said on November 16, 2010
no no
Mamla-Skobo said on November 26, 2010
No! never! Do not bother because you’ll be right where you didn’t want to be.
JessieR said on January 4, 2011
I blocked my ex. Some people are just bad for us. Not because they are bad people – just bad for us.
Good luck.
Hugs
butilicius said on January 25, 2011
You can only be friends with your ex if you are over him. The fact that you enjoy getting under his skin proves that you still want him and that’s a warning sign to keep away unless of course he wants you back too which means you have sought your issues out and get back together
thakaali said on March 31, 2011
No way. You broke up with that person to get them out of your life, so how on earth can you be “friends” again…I realised this 6 months after my first love dumped me but he still carried on as if things were normal, just that we weren’t “together”. My sister has tried to be friends with all her exes, but something always comes up, whether it happens a few weeks after they broke up or a few YEARS even. Just don’t bother, it really isn’t worth the hassle.
pooh888 said on September 21, 2011
Well…me and my ex are friends, and we are good with each other. I still love him and cares for him. But it is not always a cool idea to be friends with your ex. It only brings back all the memories, and it will be hard to get over him…But as they say, all good things come to an end.
mimikay said on April 18, 2012
i must say its pretty tricky but the urge and hope that maybe you and your ex may still have a chance together kinda haunts us perhaps most of us even tho we may never rily speak openly about it. i was in love with my x for 3 almost 4 years until we broke up the reason for our brek up was he moved to another country . it pained me that we could not me no more.. but life goes on .. years later i moved on and maried now we reconnected on faacebook and we met once and he wanted to kiss me and i respected myself . we talk about our relationships we advice each other, i may even say we still have a soft spot for each other but have accepted that even he is getting married soon but if i will tell you i enjoy us being in touch and enjoyed what we shared but will respect him . once in a while i would love to go out for a meal, dinner or coffee with him it makes me feel good coz he did really appreciate me. i love my husband but i still need my ex coz he sort of fills the gaps to complete me in a respectable manner.. funny and crazy as it is but i love to keep it at that…
LILLY GEE said on August 21, 2012
I NEVER TAKE MA EXES BACK,BUT I CAN LIVE WITH THEM AS FRENDS.AND AT TIMES THIS EXTENDS TO BEING A FAMILY FRIEND.THIS DEPENDS ON WHO THAT PERSON IS,AND HOW HE FEELS ABOUT HAVING ME AROUND THOUGH WE ARE NO LONGER DATING.M A NO, NO TO EX.
EM said on August 30, 2012
sure you can be friends with your ex, as long as your current boyfriend knows about it … and what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. So the other question to ask is, how would you feel about your boyfriend being friends with his ex?
Wesley said on September 17, 2012
Didn’t read…but NO