Wedding Bells Are Ringing – head for the hills!
May 5, 2011 in Uncategorized
All around me wedding bells are ringing … and they sure as hell aren’t mine!
Apparently the ripe old age of 25 onwards is marrying age. No one told me … and even if they had I would have chosen to ignore them anyway. All around me people are popping the question and saying goodbye to their beloved single 20s. The long list of recent engagements include two work colleagues (aged 26 and 28), a friend of my boyfriend (aged 25), my brother (aged 27) and of course there’s that little royal wedding that happened last week (aged 29 and 30 – not as bad… I guess).
I’ve only been half proposed to (it’s a long story) so I wouldn’t know what the full allure of being asked to spend the rest of your life with someone feels like … but I’m pretty sure that no amount of butterflies, fireworks and sparkly diamond rings would make me say yes to marriage in my 20s. I’m not against marriage (a picket fence, babies, an Audi and a family dog sounds just peachy) but that’s a problem for 30 year old me, not 25 year old me. 25 year old me has enough trouble remembering basic things like meal times, doctors appointments and birthdays – I’m not complicating all that by throwing marriage and a kid in to the mix. 25 year old me is also still a little too selfish and preoccupied with fun stuff like clubbing and hanging out (yes I still use words like ‘hanging out’ … a sign I’m definitely not old enough to be married) to have to worry about another person’s happiness all the time.
I have one or two friends who took the plunge in their early twenties and they’re still happily married today – and while I’m happy for them and glad they’ve found someone they love that much, it still hasn’t convinced me to ask someone to put a ring on it. To me they are the exception to the rule. Practicality tells me that, if you simply have to commit at a young age, a long engagement is the best approach.
Of my friends and family who are married and getting engaged all I can say is … better them than me. For now I’m more than content to listen to ‘Here comes the bride’ from the sidelines…
innocence said on May 5, 2011
I feel like this is a cry for help. Don’t worry I’m sure someone will ask you eventually…
cespin said on May 5, 2011
haha – one day. sob*
kupcake_03 said on May 5, 2011
i think its different for different people. i was married at 23 (i am 25 now) we still go out partying and i do still use the term “hanging out”
cespin said on May 5, 2011
I agree – like I said I’ve got friends who married younger and are happy. Awesome for them but not for me
thisisme2 said on May 6, 2011
This is so awesome; I really enjoyed this post, thank you for this. I’m so glad you think that getting married at an older age is great because it now makes me feel like I still have some time to meet “Mr Right” or Prince charming – or whatever they calling the asshole these days. YAY!!! I’m not going to be old for the rest of my life hehe… also I agree with “25 year old me has enough trouble remembering basic things like meal times, doctors appointments and birthdays – I’m not complicating all that by throwing marriage and a kid in to the mix. 25 year old me is also still a little too selfish and preoccupied with fun stuff like clubbing and hanging out (yes I still use words like ‘hanging out’ … a sign I’m definitely not old enough to be married) to have to worry about another person’s happiness all the time.” This is one for the blog “Wall of fame”
thisisme2 said on May 6, 2011
hahahahahaha I1 you are insane
cespin said on May 6, 2011